All couples argue from time to time, and everyone has disagreements with their partners and family members. This does not necessarily mean you are in an abusive relationship. The problem arises when these signs begin to form a pattern, this is an indication of domestic abuse.
If you think you may be in an abusive relationship try answering our simple questionnaire below:
1 ) Has your partner tried to keep you from seeing your friends or family?
Yes No
2 ) Has your partner prevented you, or made it hard for you to continue studying, or going to work?
Yes No
3 ) Does your partner constantly check up on you, or follow you?
Yes No
4 ) Does your partner unjustly accuse you of flirting or having affairs with others?
Yes No
5 ) Does your partner constantly belittle or humiliate you, or regularly criticise or insult you?
Yes No
6 ) Are you ever afraid of your partner?
Yes No
7 ) Do you ever change your behaviour because you are afraid of what your partner might think or do?
Yes No
8 ) Has your partner ever destroyed any of your possessions deliberately?
Yes No
9 ) Has your partner ever hurt or threatened you or your children?
Yes No
10 ) Has your partner ever forced you to do something that you really did not want to do?
Yes No
11 ) Has your partner ever tried to prevent you from taking necessary medication, or seeking medical help when you felt that you needed it?
Yes No
12 ) Has your partner ever tried to control you by telling you that you could be deported because of your immigration status?
Yes No
13 ) Has your partner ever threatened to take your children away, or said they would refuse to let you take the children with you, or even to see them, if you left him/her?
Yes No
14 ) Has your partner ever forced or harassed you to have sex with them or with other people? Have they made you participate in sexual activities that you were uncomfortable with?
Yes No
15 ) Has your partner ever tried to prevent your leaving the house?
Yes No
16 ) Does your partner blame their use of alcohol or drugs, mental health condition or family history for their behaviour?
Yes No
17 ) Does your partner control your use of alcohol or drugs (for example, by forcing your intake or by withholding substances)?
Yes No
If you answered YES to one or more of the above questions, this indicates that you may be in an abusive relationship or experiencing domestic abuse.
If you are based in or around Coventry and would like to talk to one of our advisers contact details can be found here: Valley House Domestic Abuse
If you are from outside of Coventry and its surrounding areas please contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247
