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Is My Relationship Abusive?

All couples argue from time to time, and everyone has disagreements with their partners and family members, nobody is perfect but this does not mean you are in an abusive relationship. The problem arises when these signs begin to form a pattern, this is an indication of domestic abuse.

If you think you may be in an abusive relationship try answering our simple questionnaire below:

1 ) Has your partner tried to keep you from seeing your friends or family?

Yes       No

2 ) Has your partner prevented you or made it hard for you to continue studying, or going to work?

Yes       No

3 ) Does your partner constantly check up on you or follow you?

Yes       No

4 ) Does your partner unjustly accuse you of flirting or having affairs with others?

Yes       No

5 ) Does your partner constantly belittle or humiliate you, or regularly criticise or insult you?

Yes       No

6 ) Are you ever afraid of your partner?

Yes       No

7 ) Have you ever changed your behavior because you are afraid of what your partner might think?

Yes       No

8 ) Has your partner ever destroyed any of your possessions deliberately?

Yes       No

9 ) Has your partner ever hurt or threatened you or your children?

Yes       No

10 ) Has your partner ever forced you to do something that you really did not want to do?

Yes       No

11 ) Has your partner ever tried to prevent you from taking necessary medication, or seeking medical help when you felt you needed it?

Yes       No

12 ) Has your partner ever tried to control you by telling you that you could be deported because of your immigration status?

Yes       No

13 ) Has your partner ever threatened to take your children away, or said he would refuse to let you take them with you, or even to see them, if you left him?

Yes       No

14 ) Has your partner ever forced or harassed you to have sex with him or with other people? Has he made you participate in sexual activities that you were uncomfortable with?

Yes       No

15 ) Has your partner ever tried to prevent your leaving the house?

Yes       No

16 ) Does your partner blame his use of alcohol or drugs, mental health condition or family history for his behaviour?

Yes       No

17 ) Does your partner control your use of alcohol or drugs (for example, by forcing your intake or by withholding substances)?

Yes       No

If you answered YES to one or more of the above questions, this indicates that you may be in an abusive relationship or experiencing domestic abuse.

If you are based in or around Coventry and would like to talk to one of our advisers contact details can be found here:  Valley House Domestic Abuse

If you are from outside of Coventry and its surrounding areas please contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247